HELPING OTHERS IN NEED

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Uneori viata te aduce in situatii din care poate crezi ca nimeni nu te poate ajuta sa iesi, nici macar tu insuti. Asta nu este o scuza sa devenim preocupati doar de persoana noastra, blocati doar in problemele si realitatea noastra. Cam asa reactioneaza oamenii atunci cand au probleme. De-a lungul timpului, viata mi-a adus multe provocari, insa un singur lucru a ramas constant in mintea mea: ca nu trebuie sa imi proiectez problemele sau nefericirea asupra altora. E important sa ne amintim ca toti avem greutati. Nu exista nimeni pe acest pamant care sa nu aiba probleme, si multi dintre noi ne confruntam cu ele chiar acum, in timp ce cititi aceste randuri.

Felul in care am ales sa depasesc problemele, cu zambetul pe buze si inarmata cu cate o gluma ii uimeste pe unii. Atat de mult incat pot crede ca mint atunci cand spun ca am o problema mare. Dar e OK, pentru ca nu caut ajutorul nimanui, depinde doar de mine sa ma ajut, si uneori sa ii ajut si pe altii, dupa cum veti vedea. In ziua de azi, disponibilitatea de a ajuta pe cineva te poate pune intr-o postura de inferioritate, pentru ca mai nou, bunatatea e confundata cu slabiciunea. Multi cer ajutor cand au nevoie, si dupa ce il primesc, nu se deranjeaza niciodata sa se ingrijeasca si de altcineva in afara de propria persoana. Multi te cauta doar cand au un interes si apoi te uita. Si asta e in regula din punctul meu de vedere. E probabil motivul pentru care astfel de oameni sunt atrasi de mine. Nu doar familia si prietenii, uneori si strainii de pe strada pornesc din senin o conversatie despre o problema de-a lor personala sau o situatie aparte. Cu siguranta citesc ceva in aura mea.

Nu doar oamenii simt asta, ci si animalele. Si iata o poveste despre cum am ingriit un porumbel mic, care mi-a cerut personal ajutorul. E o postare pe care trebuia sa o scriu de mult, dar din cauza unor probleme personale, blogul nu a fost o prioritate. Sper sa schimb asta. Dar hai sa ne intoarcem in decembrie 2021, cu doar cateva zile inainte de Craciun, cand un pui de porumbel a venit la fereastra mea, in cautare de ajutor.

Sometimes life takes you to a place where you are not sure if you can even help yourself. But remember that it is not an excuse to become self-centered, immersed only in your problems and your reality. This is how most people deal with problems. I’ve had life throw at me more balls than I can juggle, but one thing remained constant in my mind: that I should never project my problems or my unhappiness on others. It’s important to remember that we all have our hardships. There’s not a single soul on this planet that has not dealt with problems, and most of us are dealing with them right now, as you are reading these lines.

The way I pass through life’s hard times, with a smile on my face and a joke here and there always baffles others. So much that they might even believe that I am lying when I say that I am dealing with a major problem. But that’s OK because I seek no one’s help, it’s only up to me to help myself, and sometimes, as you will see, even help others. Being a decent human being sometimes puts you in a position of inferiority in today’s times, when kindness is mistaken for weakness. Many reach out for help only when they need it, they take and take and never bother to ask about someone other than themselves. Many will seek you out only when it’s in their best interest and then forget about you. And that’s fine with me. It’s probably why these people are drawn to me like a moth to a flame. Not only family and friends, sometimes even strangers reach out on the street and strike a conversation out of nowhere, about a personal issue or a certain situation. There’s definitely a vibe that I am giving out.

Not only humans feel this vibe, but animals too. And here’s a story about how I took care of a baby pigeon that personally came to me to request my help. It’s a long overdue post, but due to personal reasons, writing on my blog was not a priority for me. I hope to change that. But let me take you back to December 2021, just a few days before Christmas, when a baby pigeon came to my window, looking for help.

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I am HAPPY!

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De aproape sase luni de zile am invatat sa traim diferit. Inainte nu ma gandeam ca se poate trai si altfel. Imi imaginam ca poate, in alt univers sau in alta viata, oamenii traiesc asa. Apropiati acasa, in familiile lor si distantati de restul lumii. Oare cat va mai continua aceasta situatie? Acum, ca am avut timp sa traiesc asa, ma gandesc ca aceasta este normalitatea pe care inainte nu ne-o puteam imagina.

Almost six months have passed since we live differently. Before, I never took the time to think that there’s another way. I imagined that maybe, in another universe or another life, people are living like this. Socially undistanced at home, in their families, and distanced from the rest of the world. Who knows for how long will this situation continue? Now that I had the time to live this way, I think this is the normal that we were not able to see. 

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It’s the Little Things

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Scriam in urma cu putina vreme despre recunostinta, o viata pe modul incet si mai relaxata, si despre faptul ca ar trebui sa apreciem mai mult chiar si bucuriile marunte ale vietii. Gandesc asa inainte sa inceapa pandemia de Covid-19. Dupa aceasta perioada, in care am stat inchisi in case si am fost cumva fortati sa o luam mai incet am vazut multi oameni care au inceput sa aprecieze si lucrurile mici, libertatile pe care le avem si pe care ni le permitem zilnic. Sa iesim fara probleme pe usa la o plimbare, sau la alergare, sa vizitam un prieten, ca sa nu mai vorbim despre o vacanta peste hotare. Toate acestea le luam de bune, ni se datorau. Sper ca lectiile pe care l-am invatat in aceasta perioada sa ramana in memoria noastra mult timp de acum inainte. Mi-as dori sa fim cu totii mai impacati cu vietile, libertatile si oportunitatile noastre, pe langa problemele pe care le avem.

Am inchis ochii si m-am gandit la cele mai frumoase sentimente si momente din lume, chiar daca unii poate le-ar considera banale:

I was writing in some of my latest posts about grateful living, slow living, and truly appreciating even the smallest sweet things that life throws at us. This manner of thinking came to me naturally, before the Covid-19 pandemic began. After this period, when we were all confined and forced to take it slow, I saw many people that started to appreciate the small things, the liberties we have and take each day. These liberties, for example, being able to open the door and go for a walk or a run anytime, no strings attached or taking the time to visit a friend, not to mention traveling to a different country, were taken for granted by many. Somehow, I hope that the lessons we learned from this pandemic will stick in the long run. I wish we would all be more at peace with our lives and our liberties and opportunities, even if we all have our problems and hardships.

I closed my eyes and thought of some of the most beautiful feelings and moments in the world, even if some would consider them mundane:

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LIVING WITH A CHRONIC ILLNESS

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Boala, fie ca e vorba de o afectiune acuta care supara doar pe moment, sau de o suferinta cronica de durata, ajunge inevitabil sa ne fie partenera de viata tuturor. Unii sunt norocosi si ies repede din relatia cu Boala. Altii raman legati pe viata de Boala intr-o relatie toxica si plina de neprevazut. Cine a avut ghinionul sa se imprieteneasca cu Boala in Romania, stie ca are toate sansele ca suferinta sa sa se dubleze din cauza lipsurilor din sistem. Lipsuri care de ani buni sunt ignorate de cei care conduc Romania prin rotatie. Doar chipul si numele sunt diferite. In esenta, ei sunt aproape toti o apa si un pamant. “Animale” politice (de fapt a-i numi asa este o jignire adusa regnului animal) care nu cunosc omenia si empatia.

The Disease, be it an acute affection that manifests itself for the moment, or a long time chronic illness, is inevitably sometimes a life partner for all of us. Some are lucky and leave this relationship quickly. Others, learn to live with the Disease, in a toxic and restless relationship. Whoever had the misfortune to befriend a Disease in Romania, knows their suffering can be doubled by the lack of conditions in the health system. Shortages that for too long now are purposely ignored by those who rule Romania by rotation. Only their faces and names are different. Essentially, they are one and the same. Political “animals” (calling them this is an offense to the animal kingdom) that do not know humanity and empathy.

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NICE THINGS

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Putem sa avem parte de lucruri frumoase chiar si pe timp de pandemie? M-am tot intrebat asta in timp ce am incercat sa ma acomodez cu noul stil de viata. De la mijlocul lui martie viata s-a schmbat complet. Drumul de 45 de minute pana la munca s-a redus la 45 de secunde, cam cat imi ia sa ajung la birou din orice colt al casei. Bucataria e acum restaurantul meu preferat, baie e si spa, sufrageria sala de sport. Lumea a devenit dintr-o data mai mica si poate acum sa incapa in apartamentul meu.

Can we have nice things during this pandemic? I kept wondering while adjusting to a new lifestyle. Starting mid-March life has completely changed. My daily commute went from 45 minutes to about 45 seconds, the time it takes to reach my desk from almost every corner of my apartment. My kitchen became my favorite restaurant and coffee shop, the bathroom is also a spa, the living room is also a gym. The world became smaller, and can now fit into my apartment.  

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